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Abortion, Adoption & Foster Care

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Are you struggling to decide what’s best for yourself? Find out more about each of the available options and think carefully when you’re making any decision.

 

Foster Care vs. Adoption

 

What’s the difference?

 

(Source of data: Ministry of Social and Family Development)

Foster Care

 

What it is: Foster Care is a way of providing family life for the child who are unable to stay with their parents.

 

To be eligible: 

  • Your child must be below the age of 18
  • You are unable to take care him

 

How does this affect my child?

A child on the Fostering Scheme keeps his identity (i.e. own name) and continues to be the legal child of his biological parents. If situation allows, the child may eventually return to his biological parents.

 

Will my child be safe?

Foster parents must meet a series of stringent criteria set out by the Ministry of Social and Family Development (MSF) to be accepted for the placement of foster children. They need to attend regular courses on child care arranged by MSF. MSF pays a fostering allowance and an educational allowance to the foster family to cover the child’s expenses.

 

To apply, contact:

 

Ministry of Social and Family Development (MSF)

Hotline: +65 6354 8799 OR email: fostering@msf.gov.sg

 

MCYC Community services

Hotline: 6562 2211

 

Boys’ Town

Hotline: +65 6762 7846

 

Sanctuary House

Hotline: 6221 0588 OR 6252 5585 (Mondays to Fridays, 9am – 6pm)

ADOPTION

 

What it is: Adoption is the legal act of entrusting your child to another person/couple to bring him up as their own.

 

To be eligible:

  • The child must be a Singapore citizen
  • The child must be below 21 years of age to be put up for adoption (see Section 3(2) of the Adoption of Child Act.)
  • Consent from both parents is needed if the biological father and/or mother is unmarried and below the age of 21 years

 

Things to note:

  • It is against the law for biological parents to receive payment in return of giving up their child without the court’s approval
  • Teenage mothers must declare the details of the child’s father, and if the father is unknown, to state as unknown

Read more: Who can be adopted? 

 

How does this affect my child?

From the law’s perspective, all legal ties between your child and you will be broken off. The adoptive parent(s) will have all the rights and responsibilities in caring and educating the child.

Once the legal statement is signed and the child is surrendered,  there is no ‘turning back’.

 

Will my child be safe?

Child adoption in Singapore has a strict set of criteria and rules. Anyone who wishes to adopt a child from MSF will need to apply for a Home Study Report , which is conducted by professional social service staff. This is a comprehensive investigation to assess if the potential adoptive parents are ready for to adopt a child. They need to attend a Pre-Adoption Briefing (PAB) to ensure they are prepared and eligible to adopt. The adoptive parents will also be strongly encouraged to attend an Adoption Disclosure workshop.

Types of Adoption

Open adoption

Open adoption refers to the sharing of information and/or contacts between the adoptive and biological parents of an adopted child, before and/or after the placement of the child, and perhaps continuing for the life of the child.

 

Closed adoption

Adoption is confidential- you will not know anything about the adopting family and they will not have any information about you. The adoption will be arranged through a facilitator, attorney or case worker.

 

Semi-Open Adoption

Interaction between you and the adoptive family is non-identifiable. In most cases, interaction is facilitated by a third party, which is usually the adoption agency or attorney.

Note

Placing your child for adoption can be traumatic (Henney, Ayers-Lopez, McRoy, & Grotevant, 2007). You may experience grief, anger and guilt (Romanchik, 1999).

To apply, contact:

Abortion

 

What it is: It is a medical procedure taken to end a pregnancy by removing a foetus or embryo from the womb before it can survive on its own.

 

To be eligible: 

  • Singapore citizen, or have resided in Singapore for at least four months (see Section 3 of Termination of Pregnancy Act)
  • No parental consent is needed if above the age of 14 (Parental consent needed if below 14)
  • Falls below 24 weeks of pregnancy falls (unless in life-threatening situations)

Procedure

 

(Source of data: Ministry of Health)

Things to note: 

  • You may experience menstrual cramps after the procedure
  • Light bleeding may occur when menses returns after 4-5 weeks
  • Avoid having sex for about 2 weeks after the procedure
  • Continue to observe your body for unusual symptoms

Potential risks (Depend on individuals): 

  • Fever
  • Heavy bleeding
  • Prolonged abdominal pain
  • Reduced chances of pregnancy
  • Emotions such as feeling of loss and regret

Finding someone to talk to

The aftermath effects of an abortion can take a toll on your emotions. Don’t let your past hold you back. Find someone to talk to about it.

Family Life Society

Counselling services: +65 6488 0278 (Mondays – Fridays, 9am – 6pm)

You may also wish to refer to the abortion page by AWARE for additional information.

Voices of reason

If you’re still unsure of what to do, speak to someone who will be able to provide you with some professional advice.

Babes Pregnancy Crisis

Teenagers only

Hotline: 1800-TEENMOM (24-hour) OR 8111 3535

Family Life Society

Hotline: +65 6339 9770 (24-hour)

DaySpring New Life Centre

Hotline: +65 6463 0182

Date

09/01/2016